This is a lesson I’ve learned the hard way because I have a freakishly great memory, especially when it comes to interactions with important people (in this context that would be successful comedians and club managers). In comedy you can go months or years before encountering the same people. Assume the encounter wasn’t as big of a deal to them as it was for you.

So if they say, “Nice to meet you.”

Don’t counter with, “Actually we met 2 years ago when I…”

Here are my two reasons…

First, it makes them feel awkward/bad because even though it’s just little ol’ you, they have a conscious and a meaningful moment for you didn’t stick in their memory. They’re likely to exit the conversation early.

The second reason is even more important. If you weren’t funny enough to be remembered, it’s a blessing that you get a fresh start.

I regret that the first few years of my career when I lived in Columbus, were the same years I opened for the biggest names (2000-2005). I thought I was funny, but in retrospect I’m ashamed the only impression I ever left on Dave Attell (and other comedy heroes from that era) was that of a cringy 10-minute set.

I had multiple interactions with Ruthann (Crackers in Indianapolis) and every time I did a guest set or featured it was similar to The Simpsons gag of Mr. Burns not remembering Homer Simpson. The final guest set I did for her (circa 2019?) impressed her so much she offered a week right away. Like an idiot, I reminded her that I’d already featured a week a few years prior. Several email attempts later, nothing ever came about.

You’ll improve exponentially through (at least) your first 15 years of comedy. Don’t remind someone who can help you of the comic you were years before. Let them gain a fresh perspective of you at the level you’re currently at instead of making them feel awkward and reminding them of the less-experienced comic you used to be.

For more advice on making money in stand-up comedy, check out my book, Don’t Wear Shorts on Stage. It’s available in paperback, ebook, and audio.

I’ve got plenty of YouTube advice videos as well.